“It’s all mirror, mirror on the wall because beauty is power, the same way money is power, the same way a gun is power.” If you’re a young, tall, thin, attractive girl in NYC – you have a lot more power than you think. Ropes part when you stroll to the front of the line, men fight each other for the chance to feed you, and bottles pop when you’re thirsty. Beauty is a commodity; there is nothing wrong with using every weapon at your disposal. The important thing is to find a balance where you can have fun without over doing it or abusing your power. I learned this valuable knowledge my first week living in NYC. It is important to remember this is all an illusion. I’ve seen many girls get sucked up in the glitz and glamour — nightlife can chew you up and spit you out. The trick is to not to lose sight of who you are and not to become dependent on others for a good time. We’re young, pretty, and empowered in the greatest city in the world. We have options! It’s important to know your limits, respect yourself and others around you, and make the most of every occasion.
Option #1 Ladies Night Out: Make plans with your girlfriends who know how to have fun and carry themselves like ladies. Then, get dolled up and head out to your venue of choice; WITHOUT a promoter. If you come correct, the doorman will most certainly notice you. He’ll ask you to cut to the front of the line and you’ll be ushered inside free of charge. Once inside, you can approach the bar (where you’ll quickly be served) grab some cocktails and start your night. If a guy approaches you and offers to buy you a drink or invites you to his table; you’re welcome to entertain the idea but do this on your own terms. Be polite and gracious while letting him know that you’re here to have fun with your girlfriends and you can take care of yourself. In a city full of greed, this will show him you’re not one of the typical girls that run rampant in nightlife. Besides, if this guy proves to be genuine, nothing is stopping you from exchanging info for a future night out.
Option #2 Baller Guy Friends: You have a “friend” who generally goes out every night and buys bottles. He usually works for a hedge fund or some entertainment company and carelessly rocks a black AMEX. You hit your friend up to see what his plans are and arrange for you and your girlfriends to join him and his entourage. This guy friend will be eager for you and your girlfriends to join him as this will make his door experience much easier and possibly lower his table minimum. Plus he will appear to be “cooler” with a flock of attractive girls at his table.
Option #3 Promoters: Promoters provide girls with a long night of free drinking — perfect right?! Sure, but it’s important to be selective as to which promoters you give your number to. Make sure they work at the type of venues that you like and be sure that they actually have a designated hook-up. If you drunkenly hand out your number to every promoter you meet you will be inundated with mass texts and Facebook invites — not cool. Once you are able to realize which promoters are legit and which ones are dying for you to earn them $10, you’ll be able to narrow down your list. From here, you and your girlfriends can decide which venue you would like to attend.
I’ve personally chosen to partake in each of the three options from time to time. It’s important not to rely on one option more than the other – especially when you can afford not to. Sure, the most attractive option for anyone is the more economical option; but you need to play your cards right. When I go for option one, this is because my girls and I just want to have a private night out. We can drink whatever cocktails we want (no promoter drinks lol) and mingle with any guys that catch our eye. We are on our own schedule and we know we can get into any venue we so choose to attend. When I go for option two, this is because a guy friend has asked me and my girlfriends to join him and his friends for a night of fun.
As a woman with nightlife knowledge, I know that this guy only wants girls with him to benefit his experience; but who cares we all win in this scenario. When I go for option three, this is because a promoter – who I like – has invited me to join him for one of his events. I accept the offer and round up my girls. We show up on time, we don’t complain, we graciously accept the drinks that are made for us, and most importantly; we make sure to have lots of energy so our promoter’s table appears to be the sickest table in the club. I work and party in NYC nightlife, so I’ve developed an understanding of how everything really works. I am extremely fortunate for the experiences that I have had and the people I have met. Let the good times roll…