In Picking Up Women In A Nightclub: Do’s & Don’t Part I, we covered some common mistakes men make when approaching women out at a nightclub. Getting some drunk girl’s number at a club can be easy. Getting them to see you again is a different story. Today we will cover how to proceed once you’ve gotten their information.
How Long Should You Wait To Contact Them?
Question: If you give a guy your number at the club, do you want/expect a call/text the next day?
Yes 60% (30 Responses)
No 40% (20 Responses)
Analysis: “Laugh all you want but if you call too soon you might scare off a nice baby who’s ready to party” – The classic line from the movie Swingers. However, according to the women surveyed, it’s not that simple. Over half of them expect a call/text the next day, even if it’s something short and sweet like “It was nice to meet you, let’s grab drinks soon.”
Question: If he did call you the next day you would be…?
Turned On 32% (16 Responses)
Turned Off 2% (1 Response)
Creeped Out 0% (0 Responses)
Indifferent 40% (20 Responses)
Other 26% (13 Responses)
Analysis: I bought into the notion you should “wait a few days, try not to look anxious” myself. However, it seems like if they are really into you, they want you to show your interest right away. Take a look at the chart above. A third of them would actually be turned on by the fact you got in touch with them the next day. Most of them are indifferent. The ones that replied “other” mostly indicated it depended on the guy.
Should You Call Or Text?
Question: Do you even want men to call you anymore?
Analysis: Technology today is bringing people together, while simultaneously isolating people from each other due to social media and the popularity of texting. Most guys I know will text a girl before actually calling her. It turns out a phone call may be “en vogue” again. A third of the girls I surveyed actually want you to call them. While the other third don’t care either way. Though it should be noted the remaining girls insisted you text them for first contact. Again, you’re better off trying to assess the situation the best you can during your first meeting and proceed accordingly. However, don’t be scared to give them a call if it went well. It may set you apart from the others.
No only text for first contact 26% (13 Responses)
Yes I like it 36% (18 Responses)
I don’t care either way 28% (14 Responses)
Other 10% (5 Responses)
Social Media Etiquette
Question: How long should a guy wait to add you on Facebook?
Analysis: With the rise of social media websites like Facebook, a lot of times you don’t even have to get a girl’s phone number to stay in touch with her anymore. Having their full name is usually enough to find them on the social network. However, don’t be in a rush to stalk their lives or scour their photos for pictures of them on a beach. Most of the girls I surveyed prefer you to wait a couple days. A quarter of them would rather you wait for them to add you. Personally, I will give a girl a couple days to add me. If she doesn’t, then I’ll add her.
That night 0% (0 Responses)
1-2 Days 42% (21 Responses)
3-4 Days 18% (9 Responses)
5-7 Days 14% (7 Responses)
Let me add you 26% (13 Responses)
What Is A Good First Date?
Question: For a first date you would rather a guy take you…?
Analysis: So you’ve managed to get her number and begin courting her. Now it comes time for the first date. Almost 40% of the women I surveyed would prefer a low key meeting for drinks. It also never hurts to come up with something really creative and think outside the box. A quarter of the girls would like you to surprise them with something unexpected. I realize this is kind of vague. I get invited to a lot of cool events, so I can usually bring a date to those. However, if you live in the NYC area there are always plenty of great events and performances going on. I check out the Time Out New York website’s event listings pretty frequently. A lot of girls warned to stay away from inviting them to movies because there really isn’t much time to get to know each other.
Coffee 8% (4 Responses)
For drinks 38% (19 Responses)
Dinner & Movie 8% (4 Responses)
Something I don’t expect 26% (13 Responses)
Other 20% (10 Responses)
Winning Girls Over
Question: What type of things have guys done to win you over?
[ I got plenty of really great responses. You be surprised at how simple some of them are. Apparently, chivalry is not dead, it can actually go a long way. Little things like holding the door open for a lady, holding your umbrella over her if it's raining and cooking for her really work. Being sweet isn't necessarily a turn off, you just have to play it right ]
[This could be you]
- I know right away if I want a guy or not. if i like him there’s not much he needs to do. If I’m not interested there is no way to get with me, no matter what he tries.
- I gave my number to a guy I had know about a minute, because he saw my girl and I standing in the rain and got us ponchos. Very random and sweet move.
- I’m more impressed by how he makes me feel than by how extravagant he is. Two of my favorite dates were 1.) It went from day to night, just making our way around NYC, low key the whole time. Lots of hand holding. 2.) He listened to me so well he went out of his way to find a restaurant that served my favorite dish.
- He flew me to Florence, Venice, and Paris. (Obviously a model)
- I’m never impressed dudes don’t know how to act these days. The more traditional the behavior the better though.
- Nothing, you all suck.
- Asked for my favorite color and the whole day prior to our date I kept receiving flowers, notes, cards, he even wore something that color(purple at the time). He even got the restaurant to add a purple tablecloth.
- Wrote a song about me, recorded it, and put it on Facebook. Painted me a painting (He was an artist).
In conclusion, being a gentleman is highly valued these days. You just have to do it without coming off weak. Be respectful and introduce yourself when you first meet a girl. Don’t sneak attack her. Then you have to PAY ATTENTION. The little things you pick up on can prove to be the most important. Think outside the box. You are not the only guy trying to get with a girl. Do whatever you can to separate yourself from the pack.
In the end, just try to be yourself. If you actually like this girl, you want her to like the person you actually are. Not the one you pretend to be. You can only maintain that facade for so long. The more comfortable you are with yourself, the more girls will pick up on that and respond favorably.